Excellence Above Talent Podcast
The State of Man Is in Crisis—It’s Time for a Conversation.
The Excellence Above Talent podcast was born from pain, loss, and a deep need for change.
- Men are 3.6 times more likely to die by suicide than women.
- Men commit the majority of violence in the U.S., including domestic abuse and sexual assault.
- 90% of the prison population consists of men.
These are not just statistics—they represent broken families, lost lives, and a cycle of harm and abuse that must end.
As a BIPP (Batterer’s Intervention and Prevention Program) Director for four years, I’ve had countless conversations with men—men who believed abuse was necessary, men who didn’t even realize they were abusers. What I learned is that men want to talk, but they have no safe space to do so.
Society teaches men to suppress their struggles, to avoid vulnerability, and to uphold a toxic version of manhood. But silence is destroying us.
The Excellence Above Talent podcast is here to challenge the status quo. We’re redefining what it means to be a man—one conversation at a time.
Join me. Let’s fight for the future of manhood. Our sons are watching.
#ExcellenceAboveTalent #MensMentalHealth #RedefiningManhood #BreakTheCycle
Episodes
105 episodes
What If The Hardest Part Of Love Is Accountability
We break down the cycle of violence and why abusive relationships can feel good again right before the pattern returns. We name what it takes for men to stop repeating harm, replace excuses with ownership, and build real change that shows up in...
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Season 5
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Episode 13
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17:34
Choose Influence Over Control Or Lose What Matters
We unpack how abuse often begins with power and control rather than violence, and how fear and insecurity fuel cycles that erode trust. We draw a clear line between leadership and control, share personal lessons, and offer practical steps to bu...
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Season 5
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Episode 12
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17:48
What Kind Of Father Are Your Reactions Raising
We challenge the myth that leadership at home is control and show how stability, humility, and consistency create safety for partners and kids. We share tools to replace fear-based habits with influence, emotional labor, and predictable, calm d...
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Season 5
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Episode 11
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14:43
If Sex Needs Pressure, It Isn’t Love
We confront how entitlement, porn, and unspoken expectations corrode trust and safety in sex, and why consent must be enthusiastic, ongoing, and freely given. We own past harm, define coercion clearly, and lay out how healthy sexual leadership ...
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Season 5
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Episode 10
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19:52
What If Being Right Is Why You’re Lonely
We dig into why men get defensive, how that reaction kills connection, and the practical skills that make listening feel safe at home. We share language you can use today to validate without surrendering your point and lead with calm under pres...
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Season 5
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Episode 9
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13:56
Healthy Communication For Men Who Were Never Taught How
We break down why men confuse control with communication and how to replace anger, avoidance, and shutdown with calm, clear dialogue. Practical tools show how to negotiate needs, reduce defensiveness, and build connection through listening, val...
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Season 5
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Episode 8
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16:49
You Cannot Heal What You Broke Overnight
We explore how men rebuild trust and respect after emotional harm and why safety, not speed, must guide the process. We share practical steps to shift from demanding forgiveness to becoming dependable, predictable, and calm under pressure.<...
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Season 5
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Episode 7
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15:46
Power Seeks Fear; Leadership Creates Safety
We explore how non-threatening behavior turns homes from tense to safe, and why real strength shows in calm, controlled reactions. We share practical tools for regulation, repair, and leading without dominating so trust can replace fear.
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Season 5
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Episode 6
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15:59
Silent Feelings, Loud Damage
We explore how emotional avoidance becomes the hidden engine of abuse and why anger is often a mask for shame, fear, and rejection. We share tools for naming feelings, building responsibility, and guiding young men toward honest expression....
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Season 5
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Episode 5
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13:27
You Can’t Change What You Refuse To Admit
We expose the seven common lies men tell themselves that protect ego and enable abuse, then show how accountability, consistency and humility rebuild trust. Practical reflections and clear next steps guide listeners to lead themselves before tr...
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Season 5
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Episode 4
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14:15
My Ego Tried To Win The Argument And Lost The Marriage
We challenge men to drop excuses, own their choices, and rebuild trust with consistent action instead of repeated apologies. A personal story of divorce leads into practical steps for full accountability, emotional regulation, and leading your ...
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Season 5
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Episode 3
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14:13
Abuse Is A Choice: Here’s What Really Drives It And How Men Can Change
We unpack why abuse is a learned choice rooted in fear, control, and missing emotional skills, and we map a path toward accountability and healthier leadership. We share the “button” concept, name nonphysical abuse, and end with three reflectio...
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Season 5
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Episode 2
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22:29
Owning The Truth About Abuse
The hardest part isn’t admitting what happened; it’s admitting why. We open up about how abuse forms long before it turns physical, in the quiet moments where insecurity, fear, and ego go unchallenged and entitlement takes the wheel. <...
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Season 5
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Episode 1
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14:35
The Burden of Unspoken Struggles: Why Men Hide Their Pain
Men often fight battles in silence, not because no one cares but because they've been conditioned to suppress vulnerability and avoid appearing weak. The pressure to maintain a facade of strength creates a dangerous cycle where unaddressed stru...
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Season 4
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Episode 21
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15:34
The Shadow Warriors: When Grinding Feels Invisible
Aaron Thomas shares his powerful journey from contemplating suicide ten years ago to finding purpose in speaking openly about men's mental health. Breaking the silence surrounding men's struggles, he emphasizes how isolation breeds dangerous th...
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Season 4
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Episode 20
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16:06
Are You Leading From Behind? Time to Reclaim Your Year
We're halfway through 2025, and it's time for a brutal reality check about whether we're becoming the men we promised to be or just recycling excuses while our lives remain unchanged.• Six months gone that we can never get back• Eve...
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Season 4
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Episode 19
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16:40
Mind Games: Your Brain's Favorite Hobby Is Lying to You
Confronting the lies we tell ourselves requires recognizing the deceptive voice in our heads and actively replacing falsehoods with truth to renew our minds and find inner peace.• The voice in your head that claims to know everything is...
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Season 4
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Episode 18
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22:47
Choose Your Battles: Fighting for Growth vs. Fighting to Impress
Have you ever felt trapped between the person you've been and the person you're meant to become? That uncomfortable space of transformation is exactly where Aaron Thomas finds himself.Aaron opens his heart about the mental struggle he's...
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Season 4
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Episode 17
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20:33
Are You Killing Yourself to Keep Everyone Else Alive?
We challenge the dangerous myth that men must sacrifice their mental health to care for their families. Sharing my own experience with suicidal thoughts from trying to be everyone's hero while neglecting myself, we explore how this common patte...
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Season 4
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Episode 16
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26:43
Dangerous Through Growth: Embracing Who You Really Are
Aaron Thomas dives deep into three transformative quotes that have become guideposts in his journey toward authentic manhood. With refreshing honesty, he explores the struggle many men face—wanting to succeed independently while knowing deep do...
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Season 4
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Episode 15
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27:57
Mom's Got This: Parenting Sons in a Fatherless Home
Esmeralda shares her perspective on raising two teenage boys as a single mother and discusses her views on what makes a good man in today's world.• Being a man comes with unique challenges like societal expectations to be the provider, ...
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Season 4
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Episode 14
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54:11
The 10 Walls Between Men and Greatness
Aaron Thomas explores ten barriers preventing men from reaching their full potential as open, vulnerable individuals who inspire those around them.• Societal expectations around traditional masculinity discourage emotional expression
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Season 4
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Episode 13
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35:35
Men Need Safe Places Too: A Wife's Perspective on Male Mental Health
Aaron Thomas explores the evolving definition of masculinity with his wife Yanni, examining how men can find purpose beyond societal expectations and create healthier relationships through emotional intelligence.• Men today have more op...
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Season 4
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Episode 12
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39:42
From Chumps to Champs: Embracing Vulnerability in Men's Lives
Coach Q shares his journey of redefining masculinity through vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and authentic connection, challenging traditional notions of what it means to be a man in today's world.• Masculinity is evolving to inc...
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Season 4
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Episode 11
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1:11:42
Finding Your Purpose Beyond the Paycheck
Youth Pastor Branden shares insights on modern manhood, challenging cultural definitions and exploring how men can balance strength with emotional intelligence in today's world.• Being a man has become culturally defined rather than uni...
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Season 4
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Episode 10
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59:47
